How To Be The Sexiest Woman in The World, Volume I
ssssssh don’t tell anyone but here’s the secret to being sexy:
realize that being sexy isn’t (only) about the physicality of appearance and the carnality of sex.
Sexy is NOT about your looks (promise!), your hip-to-waist ratio, or being the most beautiful creature in the room.
Those things are nice, but not essential. Many a great seductress throughout history has deviated from the social ideal of beauty in her time and still enthralled and entranced the men and women of her choosing.
Yet we modern women have been trained to expect that being ‘beautiful enough’ to command love and sexual desire is an incredibly difficult task. We learn this from The Beauty Myth, The Beauty Industry, The Beauty Police, et al.
And sure, beauty is excellent. White teeth and bright eyes and clear skin – well, we all like those things for a reason.
But attraction and sexuality is, I think, simpler than the Beauty Police permit.
The physical act of sex, for example, is really simple. This goes There. (Or there or there or there.)
We can make it complicated, but whether it is complicated, fancy or boring, it is still pretty good and pretty simple.
(It is easy to be great at sex because it is simple. Enthusiasm goes a long way. There.)
A sexpert I know, Jennifer S of Libido Lounge, says that the social stuff is sex. Jennifer teaches that if you want to be good at sex, and gets lots of it by making people want to want to have sex with you, then you’ve got to get the social, interpersonal stuff handled.
And the way you get the social, interpersonal stuff handled is by realizing this:
We are all nervous and screwed up and want to be liked.
I’m shy (or I used to be). I used to wait for people to make me feel comfortable and so I was always uncomfortable.
But here’s what I’ve learned that makes me sexy. Here’s my super sexy secret:
Be the person who makes other people feel comfortable
…and you will be magnetic.
And that’s sexy. That’s how you become the sexiest woman in the world.
psssst This was “How To Be the Sexiest Woman in The World, Volume I.”
you can find Volume II here